Let them eat (birthday) cake...or not? - Feeding Littles

Let them eat (birthday) cake…or not?

One of the most common questions in our Feeding Littles Clients Only Group on Facebook has to do with a baby’s first birthday cake:

​”What kind of healthy smash cake should I make for my baby? Do I need to make a low-sugar cake?”

I always love reading the wide array of responses and seeing the smash cake photos that are inevitably posted. (True story: photos of babies eating are my favorite thing ever.)

What do Judy and I think about a baby’s first smash cake? If you’ve taken our infant our toddler online feeding courses, you probably assume that we have a flexible approach to this. In honor of my daughter’s second birthday this week, I wanted to share our thoughts. In short:

Do whatever causes you the least amount of stress. Seriously.

Not a baker? Buy something, don’t make it. Super anxious about added sugar? Don’t offer it (but make sure to read our thoughts on it below). Not into the idea of a smash cake in general? Do something different. Or do nothing at all.

Seriously, friend – this is meant to be fun. Don’t let it stress you out.

You will have enough on your plate planning your baby’s first birthday. Worrying about a smash cake only makes your life harder. Below are a few things to consider.

A little sugar will not hurt your baby or cause them to become a sugar fiend. Your baby already knows what sweetness tastes like and is predisposed to favor sweet flavors. Don’t believe me? Taste breast milk or formula. Yup, your baby has been drinking sweet milk for a year now. (Yes, it’s perfectly and healthy for her to have milk sugars and fruit sugars, and while they’re probably “healthier” than added sugars from sucrose, honey and syrup, they’re still technically sugars. Your baby’s diet has not been “sugar-free” up until now.)

It’s very important for our kiddos to have a normal relationship with food and to know how to manage their food environment. Introducing baby to some added sugar on their first birthday will not ruin their taste for healthy food, I promise. Most babies who go to town on their cakes act no differently afterwards either (according to the thousands of parents we’ve asked!). You can go back to serving the foods you have always served after the party.

To read more about how to not stress about sugar, head here

Most “Paleo” or “healthified” cakes still contain added sugars. Yes, maple syrup, agave nectar, and coconut sugar are still sugar. They may be nominally healthier, but the difference is pretty small. These cakes may be great options for kiddos or party-goers with food allergies, and some of them taste pretty darn good. Want to use one for your baby’s birthday? Great! Just don’t feel pressured to make a maple syrup-based cake if a more “traditional” (or heck, store bought) cake is easier for you. 

Oh, and watch out for “sugar-free” cake recipes. If they’re sweetened with applesauce or fruit, that’s great (and technically they’d be “free from added sugar” since fruit has fructose, or fruit sugar). Truly sugar-free cakes usually contain artificial sweeteners like sucralose (Splenda) or aspartame, which we don’t recommend for kids.

Many babies do not touch their smash cakes anyway. Parents oftentimes go overboard ensuring that their baby’s cake is beautiful (or healthy, tasty, themed)…and baby won’t even eat it. This happened to my first baby, and it happens all the time with our clients. 

via Jenn Hydeman

See that frosting on her hands and face? Yup, it’s because we pressed her hand in the cake and put some on her lips just for the photos. Girlfriend refused to try any at all. I’m glad I got a bundtlet from Nothing Bundt Cake because it was so easy (and it photographed so well)…and when she didn’t eat it I wasn’t disappointed that I had spent too much time.

via Katie Towery

This photo from one of our group members cracks me up. Baby wanted nothing to do with her beautiful cake, but mmmmm, that carrot! (Just be careful if it’s bitten through since raw carrots are a choking hazard!)

Remember, offering your baby a birthday cake (or something else) is all about the moment, the memory, the tradition. It’s a rite of passage for many families. Think less about the “healthfulness” of the food and focus more on the memories you’d like to make. Your baby’s first birthday is a celebration of surviving the first year (more for you than for them!), and having birthday cake if you want to is about celebrating. Food has an important part in our culture, and it’s OK to eat certain foods as part of a celebration. Think long-term about what you want for this moment.

I think super messy cake smashes are a hilariously appropriate way to usher in toddlerhood and the joyful craziness that it brings.

via Jen Strozewski of Alikat Photography
my little peanut – photo via Allegra Fullerton
photo via yours truly of a good family friend – after the cake was destroyed and taken away

You don’t have to do a smash cake. If you still want to do “smash” food or messy play, get creative! Check out the awesome ideas here and here. The sweet girl in the photo below did a quesadilla/taco smash, which was a perfect option for her family.

via Iris Jillian Photography

What if your baby has allergies? Check out the links below to some allergen-free cake recipes:

Gluten-free allergen-friendly smash cake by the Pretty Bee
Corn and rice-based cake by Huffington Post
Allergen-friendly chocolate cupcakes by Allergy Awesomeness
Healthy first birthday cake by Mamacado 

Remember, your baby’s first birthday is a momentous occasion for the entire family! Enjoy it, and have some cake if you’d like – or not! 

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